Who… are… you? Those famous words from Lewis Carroll’s book, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland, from the creepy Hookah-Smoking Caterpillar is something that we don’t ask ourselves too much nowadays. We go on about our lives like machines it seems, rarely reaching our full potential and rarely having fun, or at least not having the fun that we want to be having or could be having.
Why do we have to hunt for who we are? As Kesha says, We are Who we are.
You ARE you, you are whatever you want to be, you just have to change YOUR programming, every morning is a new life, and we have died to the old one, yet we continue to have the same script, and we install the same bad habits and old programming. Why? It’s not like we want to be unhappy, its because it NEVER about finding yourself or “trying” to love yourself, that should be automatic. Reprogramming your mind to be happy now is the key. You should never need to love yourself, chose to love yourself now, no looking, no gimmicks, just do it, its easier than you think. Then MAKE yourself into WHOEVER you want to be, as Micheal Jordan use to say, “Just Do It!”
Anthony Robbins a prominent personal development coach and motivational speaker, would always say, “Live Life with Passion.” How did we lose that, when did we lose it and why? Was it growing up? Or were we programmed by our society or family, maybe even friends that we can’t have fun and enjoy life? When we were children, we changed ourselves everyday, one day we’re Superman, the next a Prince or Princess. We actually LIVED life. We were rarely sick and could pretend at any moment to entertain ourselves. Is it any coincidence that we are in what’s called the ADD generation. We so much at our fingertips we’re become a docile people, who’ve lost themselves and their home training.
When your in therapy, they tell you “Fake it till you make it.” Most people say I can’t, or I don’t know how. Once again programming themselves to think they can’t do anything about it, there isn’t a single think about yourself that you can’t change if you want to. It just takes a start, even if you trip and fall, you’ve started. People get down on themselves for New Years Resolutions that they start but inevitable fail at, what makes it a failure? Two things, one they stopped, and two their message to themselves. Saying thing like, “I can’t do it” or “I don’t know how” can cripple your mind. It’s just as easy to say, “I’ll find a way” or “That’s a great questions, let’s find out” That motivates you to DO something about the problem not to just wallow in it… Its that action that makes your mind work. The more you do, the more you CAN do.
Like I’ve said in a previous post about relationships, Love is an action, before its a noun, or a feeling. That’s just as important when it pertains to you as to your partner. Love yourself right, now, right here. Have fun with yourself, enjoy yourself, because there is no one in the world like you, and there never will be. Party like a rock star, and be the person you were always meant to be.
You don’t have to conform to what others say… what do you say? How do you not speak with more authority for yourself than anyone else? There are so many different types of people and we’re ALL geniuses, you just have to find our what your a genius in… here are some links that might
Psychologist Howard Gardner theorized that there are 7 different types of intelligence’s or geniuses, which do you fall within? Often times people who are looked on as slow, unmotivated or stupid simply don’t have the right resources or understanding of what they are great at or love to do. This is usually because someone else has told them they can’t or its stupid, because they themselves are incapable or uninterested in that particular pursuit or expression method. To that I usually say, find what you love, and cultivate your greatness from that.
The 7 types of Genius/Intelligences are:
Mathematical or Logical
Bodily-kinesthetic or Physical
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator or MBTI for short, is a test given worldwide to asses psychological preferences and responses in people and how they make their decisions and interactions from those preferences. It can be used in business and personal interactions. Take the test and find out where you fit in.
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman attempts to explain how we express love and wish to receive it.
It explains that the reason many couples fall apart is that much like the 7 intelligence’s, we sometimes speak another language of love and we need to express it not in the way we receive it but how our partner needs it to be. Go to the 5 Love Languages site, to take the test and find out whats your language.
Those Five types of love are:
Acts of service
Words of Affirmation
As it was said in Hamlet, “To be or not to be, that is the question….” So, Who… are…. you? I hope the answer will be, “Whoever I wish to be!”