When I say “I love you”, it’s not because I want you or because I can’t have you. It has nothing to do with me. I love what you are, what you do, how you try. I’ve seen your kindness and your strength. I’ve seen the best and the worst of you. And I understand with perfect clarity exactly what you are. Your hell of a woman.” – Joss Whedon (Spike to Buffy on Buffy the Vampire Slayer TV show)
that is a fantastic way to look at love…..i love it…